My little Scarlett is not so little anymore. I joke that she is 21 months going on 21 years old. My Dad jokes that she already walks like a little old lady. She prances with a wobble and it is so adorable. Raising Scarlett after a first child like Owen has been an eye opener and has caused us to get learn new parenting skills. Owen, for the most part, was a "yes" man; Scarlett is a "no" woman. She is a little more bold and spirited than Owen. Owen cautiously learned the boundaries and has abided by them pretty religiously. Scarlett has learned the boundaries, and chooses to go beyond them. I really, honestly, do not prefer the "way" Owen is or the "way" Scarlett is over the other. They are different. I appreciate how different they are and love it, embrace it, and try to be the best parent I can be to both.
My dear Scarlett, I am worried that we spoil you. You throw such beautiful tantrums, that we are starting to give you what you want in lieu of dealing with the tantrum. This has got to stop.
But what is really on my mind is that I see me in you. Is this genetic or is it because you hang out with me all day everyday? I don't know and don't really care. It is a whole other issue how I see Brian in Owen. But, Scarlett in your personality, I see me. I see that you like to push boundaries, but at the same time, pleasing is very important to you. You are affectionate (Owen is not so much). You seem to love music and dancing. You are sensitive. You are emotional. You love to be around other people and communicate and connect with them. I love watching your personality develop.
My hope for you is that while I see that you are sensitive and a pleaser, that you develop you own boundaries, ideals, and morals... whether or not they completley align with your father and i's. I want you to feel empowered to be you. I want you to know who you are. I want you to define yourself, not by your accomplishments, but by the instrinsic qualities that you possses as an individual.
I love you Scarlett Neal and love our journey together and look forward to each day to come.
My dear Scarlett, I am worried that we spoil you. You throw such beautiful tantrums, that we are starting to give you what you want in lieu of dealing with the tantrum. This has got to stop.
But what is really on my mind is that I see me in you. Is this genetic or is it because you hang out with me all day everyday? I don't know and don't really care. It is a whole other issue how I see Brian in Owen. But, Scarlett in your personality, I see me. I see that you like to push boundaries, but at the same time, pleasing is very important to you. You are affectionate (Owen is not so much). You seem to love music and dancing. You are sensitive. You are emotional. You love to be around other people and communicate and connect with them. I love watching your personality develop.
My hope for you is that while I see that you are sensitive and a pleaser, that you develop you own boundaries, ideals, and morals... whether or not they completley align with your father and i's. I want you to feel empowered to be you. I want you to know who you are. I want you to define yourself, not by your accomplishments, but by the instrinsic qualities that you possses as an individual.
I love you Scarlett Neal and love our journey together and look forward to each day to come.